Recognize the Difference Between Criticism and Correction

"The story of your life is told in the voice of the emotions you felt as you were living it." David Viscott, M.D.

I am thoroughly annoyed by hearing the statement, "People are so sensitive these days and easily get into their feelings." When they express their dissatisfaction with harsh criticism, I know everyone is entitled to their opinions, and so are people who feel insulted by your criticism. This blog post is also open to public and private critique; this writer accepts the responsibility of sharing his thoughts in a public forum.  

Furthermore, this is not an attempt to sanitize language or the expression of personal thoughts. Think of a time when you did something that you recognized needed improvement, and the feedback you received from others left you even more confused about how to proceed with making corrections.

Telling someone they are "trash" because their actions do not meet your high standards is not the same as offering constructive criticism. The fact is that for many people, it has the opposite effect of what you intended. People benefit from unbiased and unconditional support.

Offering impartial and unconditional support does not mean you cannot hold the person accountable or offer correction. Accountability can be an expression of care and concern for the person with whom you are communicating. The problem is when criticism is confused with correction. The next time you give "feedback," and the other person withdraws, it's not because they are "too sensitive."

 It's a retreat to their safe space where they can center themselves and manage their frustration properly. At this moment, it's not an opportunity for you to double down with "I'm a straightshooter," as if that's an excuse for your lack of emotional awareness.

Criticism and correction may seem similar, but they serve very different purposes:

• Criticism often involves pointing out flaws or mistakes without necessarily offering guidance on how to improve. It can be constructive or destructive, depending on how it's delivered. Constructive criticism helps someone grow, while destructive criticism can tear them down.
• Correction is more focused on solutions. It's about identifying errors and providing the right way to do things. Instead of just pointing out what's wrong, correction offers guidance and ways to improve.

Think of it like this: Criticism says, "This is bad." Correction says, "Here's how to make it better." In the end, which one do you find more useful in your life—giving feedback, receiving it, or both?

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